I realize that this in not the recipe you are looking for but it is a date cake that we have enjoyed for years and perhaps you could work with it to get something close to the one you remember.

WEST HAVEN CAKE

1 (8 oz.) package pitted dates
1 tsp. baking soda
1 cup hot water
1/2 cup shortening
1 cup sugar
1/4 tsp. salt
2 eggs
1 tsp. vanilla
1 3/4 cup flour
1 Tbsp. cocoa powder
1 cup coarsely chopped walnuts
1 small package (6 oz. or 1 cup) chocolate chips

Cut dates in thirds. Pour over them: 1 tsp. soda dissolved in 1 cup hot water. Set aside.

Cream together shortening and sugar. Add salt, eggs, and vanilla. To this add flour sifted with cocoa powder alternating with liquid off dates; mix well after each addition. Add dates.

Pour into a 9x13-inch greased pan and sprinkle with walnuts and chocolate chips; press lightly into surface of dough.

Bake at 350 degrees F for 45 minutes.

Best served with sweetened whipped cream.